The Power of Catching Our Ego and Living a Heart Centered Life with Randi Halaway
This week’s guest, Randi Halaway
A heart-centered soul and business coach
Episode Description
Life is so much better when you live from the heart.
Today’s guest, Randi Halaway, has helped me do just this and I’m so excited for you to meet her. Randi is a heart-centered soul and business coach who helps women transform chaos into abundance, and she cracks her heart WIDE open in this episode.
As moms, we can be so hard on ourselves – from being afraid to take sacred time for ourselves to showing up for our kids in the way we want to. Sometimes it might feel like we have to be perfect for them, or that we must shield them from hurt.
What if we took that pressure off ourselves and showed up in a way that’s just authentically ourselves?
Randi is the woman who guided me through this rollercoaster journey, from quitting my corporate sales job, launching a business, and having a baby, which was followed by the most difficult year of my life mentally. She provided me with the tools to resettle back into my body to find clarity and peace.
In this conversation, we’ll explore how we can reconnect to our intuition and our heart space.
Connecting to heart spaces and catching egos
Life coaching is in Randi’s blood. Her dad is a life coach, motivational speaker and author, but Randi resisted the field for a long time.
Randi’s transformational journey involved marrying in her early 20’s; divorcing, then moving to San Diego; opening a salon; getting married in her early 30’s, then divorcing four months later. The second marriage ending cracked open her heart.
It was at that moment Randi understood the idea of transformation and of healing oneself. What she hadn’t mastered yet was how to do it.
“As my heart was quite literally being cracked open through a very devastating experience of a marriage ending so abruptly, I started embracing getting into my body more. Feeling more. Just acknowledging my fears, acknowledging the parts of me that were still afraid of being abandoned, rejected, not good enough, alone,” she says.
The more she surrendered to her emotions, the more she connected with her heart space and remembered who she really was. And the deeper she delved into this personal journey of heart-centered living, the clearer it became that this was her mission: to help women who are ready to step into their highest level of mastery and claim more freedom, abundance, and fulfillment in their lives.
Slowing down offers perspective
The first step toward connecting to our intuition and changing our mindsets is simply wanting to change. The next involves slowing down.
Morning rituals can help us do this, particularly ones that involve journaling or meditation. Randi says these rituals help us reprogram our subconscious minds. They help us to relax, acknowledge our feelings, and ask ourselves:
What do we need?
What are we feeling?
What is true?
My routine gives me perspective. There’s always a part of me that might say, ‘there’s so much to get done today. There’s no time for this!’ But, as Randi always tells me, anything is better than nothing. Five minutes sometimes turns into thirty. And afterward, the items on my long to-do list no longer feel so vital.
The first year of my daughter’s life, I remember having these conversations with Randi and trying to give myself permission to take this time when it felt like my newborn baby needed me 24/7.
Looking back, I can recognize these ego-based patterns of self-sabotage and self-sacrifice, giving myself to others before myself. The changes I implemented have helped me break through these limiting beliefs.
Putting ourselves first every once and awhile, especially during this sacred time in the morning, is so needed.
Taking the power away from pain
I think about all the times I stayed up late feeding my baby girl. At the time, those moments felt chaotic, but now, I see they were quite beautiful.
Most moments can be beautiful if we’re able to simplify them and just let us feel whatever it is we’re feeling. After all, our emotions aren’t trying to hurt us – they just want to be acknowledged. WE give the emotions the power they have, and WE have the ability to control that power.
“Imagine a life where you don’t have to be afraid of pain. Pain is inevitable. Heartbreak is inevitable. Falling down is inevitable. It’s just the meaning you give it that makes it freaking devastating, and that’s what keeps us stuck,” Randi says.
As moms, we can be so hard on ourselves about showing up for our kids in the way we want to. We are models for our children, and they learn from us, both consciously and subconsciously, seeing us react in all situations. Sometimes it might feel like we have to be perfect for them, or that we must shield them from hurt.
What if we took that pressure off ourselves and showed up in a way that’s just authentically ourselves?
What if we demonstrated to them it’s okay to mess up sometimes, and forgive ourselves for it?
After all, isn’t that what we want – for our kids to have the freedom to fall, feel pain, and get back up again?
To feel empowered to be their own individual selves, flaws and all?
Notable Quotes from Randi
“People will tell you, ‘you’re amazing, you’re so loved, you’re so safe, you’re so worthy.’ And you’re like, ‘yeah, cool, thanks’, but when you really start to remember that that is actually true for yourself, and there’s a knowing inside of you of who you are, how powerful you are, how magnificent you are, how worthy you are, loved you are, safe you are, that is when everything starts to shift.”
“Our emotions aren’t trying to hurt us. They just want to be acknowledged by us so we can get more into our heart, more into our body, more connected to our intuition.”
“You don’t own your children. You were meant to lead them, you were meant to inspire them, you’re meant to nurture them - not control every part of who they are, what they get to experience, and what they don’t. Yes, you have to discern what’s in their highest and best interest, but what you want to ultimately be doing is empowering them to be their own person, their own individual, their own unique essence in the world.”
Resources & Links
Randi has been coaching and supporting women since 2016, helping them create and implement key strategies and organization within their businesses and their lives. She offers one-on-one coaching, courses and a membership called the Heart-Centered Collective. Visit her website and check out her free journal prompts and meditation guide. If you have any questions about her offerings, please feel free to reach out to her (on Facebook, Instagram or TikTok) or to me.
The books we talked about in this podcast include The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz & A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson.
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